Life presents us with daily task that can and if allowed, overwhelm us. Before I understood the assignment, life was dragging me through the mud! Once I got my bearings about myself, I became a brand new person. I know everyone has their own source of consolation but I pray, meditate on the word of God and trust him. Trusting isn’t always easy, but it always work together for your good (Ro 8:28)
Life presents us with daily task that can and if allowed, overwhelm us. Before I understood the assignment, life was dragging me through the mud! Once I got my bearings about myself, I became a brand new person. I know everyone has their own source of consolation but I pray, meditate on the word of…
Life presents us with daily task that can and if allowed, overwhelm us. Before I understood the assignment, life was dragging me through the mud! Once I got my bearings about myself, I became a brand new person. I know everyone has their own source of consolation but I pray, meditate on the word of…
Step 1- SHIFT YOUR PERSPECTIVE. We often time look at things from our point of view and lets just be honest, most of the time its skewed! We need eyes to see and ears to hear from Gods perspective. Our feeble understanding will have us looking at the small picture and hearing half the message. Consider the source of the information and ask Holy Spirit to help decipher the truth of what is being said, heard and seen.
Step 2. PRACTICE SELF COMPASSION. Show yourself some grace and don’t allow negative self talk consume you. No-one is perfect, everyone make mistakes(even the ones who will not admit it), and nobody gets it right all the time. Grace is a beautiful thing when we apply it to our lives. Acknowledege your feelings, shortcomings ,and mistakes, but see them from a victorious perspective. God gives new mercies everyday and he encourages us to come boldy to the throne of grace to obtain mercy and find grace in the time of need (Heb 4:16). Grace is icing on your life. Don’t dwell on your mistakes, flip it and thank God for the learning opportunity. Remember, in life there are LESSONS not LOSES!
Step 3. SET BOUNDARIES. If you desire to be in control of your emotions and mental health, create healthy boundaries. At first, they will be uncomfortable because you are not use to standing on your NO and people are use to you saying yeah! Boundaries are important to create to keep you stable mentally and emotionally. When you implement boundaries, it will separate the negative people from the supportive people. Everyone will not need the same boundary.You will know who is who because your nervous system will warn you. Negative will feel bad and supportive will feel good. Boundaries are beneficial for you and those who you set them for.
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Step 4. PRACTICE MINDFULNESS. Learn the importance of being in the present and detaching from ruminating thoughts. These thoughts keep you focused on past mistakes, hurts, disappoints and shortcomings. Remember that is the past and it is not happening right now. Stay in control of your emotions and thoughts. Breathing and talking to yourself in a positive manner will allow you to regain control and move forward in the present.
Step 5. LEARN TO LAUGH (when appropriate). I have learned over the years and now understanding the sayin we have to laugh to keep from crying. My own saying, we have to laugh keep from becoming angry. Laughing will offset emotions from becoming upset, offended, aggravated and irritated. Laughter is good for the soul (Pro 17:22)So instead of become angry, laugh. Don’t sweat the small stuff and you will stay in control and Step Strong in Life!
By: Tara J Black,MSW,LMSW
ReSet Your Life! 